'Progress, Not Perfection'
There's something about the beginning of a week, month, or year that prompts many of us to want to wipe the slate clean and start afresh. While intellectually we may recognize that there really is no great difference between one day and another, emotionally we may seek opportunities for new beginnings. Frustrated with ourselves for having missed another deadline, lapsed on our gym membership, overeaten, restarted smoking/drinking/ (fill in whatever), we yearn for another chance to make it right.
When we begin a year that ends with a '0' we may put even more pressure on ourselves to change, just as we might do when turning 30 as opposed to 29. For some reason, we have imbued special significance to these numbers.
So here we are at the onset of 2010, hoping that this year will be the one where we will be successful in recreating ourselves as healthier, happier or 'holier' than the year before. Weeks into the New Year, our plans may have already faltered, and we may be feeling like failures.
But take heart! Change does not occur overnight nor does it necessarily fit neatly into our schedules. There are all sorts of roadblocks that can get in the way of our plans, so we may need to learn patience and resilience. And as I've written in previous New Year messages, we often need repeated attempts to make a lasting change:
'New Years' Evolutions'
'Time for a Change'
'Tomorrow & Tomorrow & Tomorrow'
But know that when we are ready, when the time is right, we can restart, renew and revitalize our lives. We may need help in planning the change and executing the plan, but we can do it if we want it. Please let me know if I can be of any help in your change.
Barbara Fish, M.Ed.
Personal and Career Counsellor
“Helping Your Life Work”
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